Wednesday, 17 August 2011

Rape, a crime against humanity - by Johan Obbes

What are women’s rights and freedoms claimed for women and girls of all ages in many societies?
Many times we hear certain phrases used in daily conversations, that we begin to experience a saturation of the impact or severity of its meaning. Women’s rights are one of these phrases.

In the year 2011, we as South Africans can be proud to say that we have one of the most inclusive and progressive constitutions in the world, and that the majority of all vulnerable groups in our country are protected by our laws. Yet simply having a law as protection for a vulnerable collective group of people, does not always ensure that this law will be enforced correctly or even serve its purpose to protect them. We can even go as far as to say that whenever there is power…there might be an abuse of that power. Perhaps not with every person in power, yet we need no evidence to see that abuse usually happens when someone or a collective group of people use that power to create an “in and out” group, when power is used to separate instead of integrate. For centuries, women had very few, if any rights and every small victory for women’s rights has not gone without the bloodshed and sacrifice of a human being somewhere in the world. Today in Africa we still find women being discriminated against by their own spouses, families, governments, cultures and countries laws.

The long walk to freedom

Where does the term human rights come from? 17th century natural law philosophers in the West, developed the theory of natural rights. Back in the day many of these philosophers defended slavery and an inferior status of women in law. A group of people was known as the “Natural law philosophers” who argued that natural rights where not derived from god, but were "universal, self-evident, and intuitive", a law that could be found in nature. They believed that natural rights were allocated only to men who lived (according to them) "in the highest form of society". Thus, natural rights were something found in the nature of men and this saw the first movement of “rights” not as human rights but as “natural rights”.

Yet in Greece some philosophers reasoned that human nature depended on gender, ethnic, and other qualifications and thus came to regard women along with children, slaves and non-whites, as neither "rational" nor "civilised" thus not valuing them as human beings worthy of rights. They claimed the inferior status of women was common sense. They believed that women could not be treated as equal due to their inner nature as women.

Thankfully the changes brought about by philosophers such as William Wilberforce and Charles Spurgeon, who argued for the abolition of slavery and advocated for women to have rights equal to that of men, paved the way for women to be seen as equal human beings in the eyes of the law, and the term “natural rights” became “human rights”.

In 1946 the United Nations established a Commission on the Status of Women which serves as an international forum for women's rights, which serves a commitment to achieve gender equality and the empowerment of women. Yet having this amazing commission in place, to ensure the rights of women after the Second World War proved to be hopeful in the fight for women’s rights, still we cannot forget how the Second World War saw one of the worst crimes against humanity with millions of Jews dying in the Holocaust.

The question is then asked, with such amazing laws and commissions in place to protect women, is it really worth having a month dedicated to women’s rights? Is the problem really bigger than any of the other challenges which we face in the world?

From 1945 we moved to 1994, only to see another shattering crime against humanity where nearly 800 000 Tutsi indigenous members were murdered in Rwanda by members of the Hutu indigenous group.

An International Criminal Tribunal for Rwanda was established by the United Nations and discovered incidences of the most horrific rape known to mankind, as element of the crime of genocide. The Trial Chamber held that rape, and sexual assault formed an integral part of the process of destroying the Tutsi ethnic group and that the rape was systematic and had been perpetrated against Tutsi women only, manifesting the specific intent required for those acts to constitute genocide.

From the stories heard by the tribunal afterwards it was clear; “From time, rape has been regarded as spoils of war. Now it will be considered a war crime. We want to send out a strong message that rape is no longer a trophy of war.” An estimated 500,000 women were raped during the 1994 Rwandan Genocide.

Today we are celebrating Women’s month in South Africa, with widespread media visibility, advocacy and lobbying for harsher punishment on perpetrators who abuse women, or in some cases…even just the implementation of these rights to be taken seriously. The question then still remains, why do we as the human race still discriminate against another human being if we are all humans. Why do this to another human being who is our equal?

What makes us think that one human being has the right to exclusivity in deciding who is inferior to whom?! Which brings me back to the question – “Is it really worth it to have a month dedicated to women’s rights”

As a human being I expect all MY rights to be respected and enforced. How is this different to expecting the same for any other human being especially a vulnerable group of people. Whether it is the Holocaust, Rwandan genocide or rape, it is all a crime against humanity.

Article Written by Johan Obbes

Monday, 1 August 2011

Post Abortion Stress Syndrome (PASS) - by Johan Obbes

Every day we as counsellors hear some of the most heart breaking stories in our counselling rooms. Most of these painful experiences has never been told to another human being, and regardless of whether the person felt they are going against their own sense of right or wrong, many women who have had an abortion are not able to identify, much less grieve their loss. Today I want to dedicate this article to the amazing women who had the courage to open their hearts and share their pain, shame and very difficult journey with me on how they lived through an abortion.

The topic of Post Abortion Stress Syndrome brings about great controversy among pro-life and pro-choice groups everywhere. In fact, there is still much debate regarding whether this problem actually exists, as some fear this may only be a syndrome invented by pro-life groups in an attempt to hinder further abortions; others claim they themselves have experienced this problem. Still, other groups of people recognize PASS as a problem but believe it is very rare and mention that giving up a child for adoption would seem to be more traumatic than a typical abortion.

This article is not on the topic of pro-life or pro-choice, but is a highlight on the fact that we as counsellors meet our clients where they are at. We as counsellors do not judge, and NEVER force our opinions or belief systems on any client, yet we need to be prepared with empathy and respect to our clients for whatever experience might present itself in our counselling sessions.

The term Post Abortion Stress Syndrome is not known by a lot of people, yet I have seen the damage this can do to a women who was coerced into termination her pregnancy. Post-Abortion Stress Syndrome, abbreviated as PAS or PASS is a form of trauma which can occur in a women after she has had an abortion. It has also been called post traumatic abortion syndrome. Many women experience brief feelings of sadness or guilt after having an abortion. Women with PASS experience these feelings for a long period of time, and some even struggle with it for years after the abortion. These symptoms also often interrupt their everyday lives and can lead to more severe symptoms. This disorder is often compared to post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), a disorder which is often noticed in military veterans and survivors of traumatic events, and the symptoms of these two disorders are very similar . (See the article on our blog for the 5th May 2011 on PTSD)

To date I have seen from personal experience that clients who suffered the most from PASS were the ones who was coerced into having an abortion. I find that some women were more susceptible to PASS and aspects which highlighted a pattern for me in various women who suffered from it were those who:

-          Felt pressured into termination the pregnancy
-          Did not consider many different choices
-          Has strong religious views
-          Did not have her baby because it would have a birth defect
-          Did not receive counselling before or after the abortion
-          Was not well informed about the abortion
-          Recognizes that a fetus is a human
-          Rushed and did not give her decision much thought

Symptoms of PASS may not occur immediately after one has had an abortion. In many cases, numbness will overcome a women and the feelings of an abortion will be held back for months or even years. Some women however can live their entire lives and feel perfectly fine after having an abortion. Triggers which may initiate PASS in a women after having an abortion include seeing another pregnant women, certain smells or sounds, marriage, or the anniversary date of the abortion.

Who have had an abortion often feel uncomfortable or ashamed to talk about their experience and thus never seek trauma treatment. These women deserve to find recovery, instead of suffering in loneliness. Symptoms of PASS are often very difficult to manage and can involve a variety of risky behaviours. Intensity of these symptoms varies from person to person and symptoms include:

-          Guilt feelings
-          Inability to function normal at school or work
-          Nightmares, panic attacks, anxiety
-          Thoughts of suicide, self harm or suicide attempts
-          Sudden phobias (pre-existing phobias can also escalate after the abortion)
-          Poor quality of sleep
-          Increase in dangerous and/or unhealthy activities (Drug and alcohol abuse, anorexia/bulimia/compulsive overeating, cutting or risk taking behaviours)
-          Irritability, numbness, flashbacks
-          Relationship complications
-          Constant crying
-          A desire to immediately get pregnant and “replace” the baby that was aborted, even when all the circumstances that led her to terminate the pregnancy the first time are still in place.
-          Overprotective of future children
-          Depression that is stronger than just a little “sadness or blues”
-          Inability to function around babies or pregnant women
-          Codependence and Inability to make decisions or perform normal self-care activities

Relief is the most common reaction immediately following an abortion. But as time goes on, you may have trouble dealing with the loss you feel. One of the most difficult challenges in the grieving process is that you have no external evidence that you baby ever existed – no pictures no memorabilia. You may not believe that you have the right to grieve the loss that you “chose” to suffer.

Whatever the reasons to the sufferer, we as counsellors need to remember that we are here to help our clients to process through the emotions. We are not here to judge in any way. We are here to facilitate the process of healing and help our clients to come to that place again of peace with themselves, others and God.

Written by Johan Obbes - Exerts have been taken from Wikipedia.org